Community guidelines

InRealLife works because people show up, are who they say they are, and treat each other well.

Show up

Joining is a promise. If plans change, leave early so someone else can take your seat. No-shows are visible as a lower show rate.

Be yourself

Real name, real photos, real age (18+). No impersonation, no fake accounts, no coming back after a ban.

Host honestly

Describe what will actually happen, where and what it costs. Public places for dating activities. No selling, recruiting or promotion disguised as an activity.

Respect people

No harassment, hate, threats, or pressure — in person or online. "No" ends the conversation. Don't share other people's information or photos without permission.

What happens when someone doesn't

A person reviews every report. Depending on what happened we warn, suspend or ban, and we remove hosts faster than we add them. Bans apply in all three apps.